Confidence in the key to
Unfortunately, there's not an instruction manual I can give to you and say "Here, read this, it's
how to be confident." However, I can give you a few tips I have used myself or have read about in the past. Confidence is
a vital personality trait. Most highly successful people are confident. I mean, what would they do without the confidence
they have, hey? It's easier to gain confidence then you may think! These tips may not work for everyone.
- Act Confident. Even if you aren't feeling confident, the key is to act confident.
Pretend you feel great about yourself. Stand up tall, head held high, and smile! Don't stress if you do something wrong, or
if people see you do something wrong - they're people too, they also make mistakes. The chances are, they also worry about
the same day-to-day things, such as themselves doing something wrong or making a fool of themselves. Chill out! Relax. Do
what ever makes you feel comfortable. Besides, the more you fake it, the more likely you are to always do it, and therefore
be more confident!
- Always be true to yourself. This sounds like some kind of cheesy song, I know,
but keep your eyes open for your own thoughts and feelings. There's not much point walking around being one thing, but feeling
totally different. I know that's a complete contridiction on what I've said so far, but you have to remember confidence
isn't who you are, but how you project yourself. It doesn't matter what label you have; confidence is your body language
and your attitude saying "This is who I am and I'm absolutely fine with that." There's one general
thing to remember. If you act like its true, people will believe that! No 17-year-old who's been beaten down by peers for
years and years will act confident, right? People will assume that other people have treated you well because they liked you,
and that is the reason why you're so confident.
- Try not to take everything personally. Even the people who may seem the most confident
people in the world still have times when they don't feel confident - hey, who knows, they could be reading and article teaching
them how to be confident right now! Don't let someone else spoil your day. Don't let yourself be provoked and don't respond
to negative feelings. Try and think positive to keep your emotions up to scratch.
- You're not the only one who gets rejected! Only the "me me me" type people will think
they're not gunna get rejected at any point in their life, but they will. Knowing how to be confident is easier when you accept
others face and deal with the same situations. Rod Stewart, a successful singer/songwriter, was rejected several times. He
didn't give up and is now rice and famous! If you want to learn to be confident, you have to learn how to deal with rejection.
- Don't give up. Things are just going to turn fairy-like over night, you have to work
and try until you reach the point you wanna be at. As the saying goes "If at first you don't succeed, try again." If things
don't go the way you planned, try an alternative. It's a great way to improve self-confidence as you face new challenges.
- Work with your inner voice. People who are less confident in themselves, often have
an inner voice telling them what an awful person they are. If you have this problem, tell your inner voice the opposite. Tell
it "no, I'm not a horrible person." If you take the time to examine the thoughts in your head, you can work with your
inner voice and become more confident by agreeing with the good things it says about you, and arguing against the horrible.
- Increase interactions with positive people. The more time you spent with positive
people, the more likely you are to become confident yourself. Take every oppurtunity you have to soak up the positive vibes
from other people. Let confident people be your role model - a characteristic you'd like to have. People who influence you
to speak your wings and go for what you wish will do you the world of good.
- Buy a notebook. Keep a diary and keep track of your positive thoughts. I got this
from another website: Make a table with four columns. The first column is for listing any negative thoughts that you have.
In the second, write a corresponding feeling. For example, if someone said the negative thought to you, how would you feel?
In the third column, write the trigger. What triggered you to feel like that? Did you do something to remind you that you
don't like yourself? When you start to understand the trigger, it will boost your confidence alot more, because you'll have
different coping mechinisms and you may be able to avoid the trigger. Write in the last column the truth of the situation.
Did you really fail, or did you just not do as well as you were hoping? Examine your feelings, triggers and negitives, then
look deeply into them and convert them into something good. If you repeat this exercise often enough, it should start to take
effect very soon. It helps you to see the bigger picture.