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What to do if you're being bullied

 
 

Getting help if you're being bullied is often a very hard thing to do - just admitting it to someone can be very tough. A lot of people think the person will tell will think they're weak, or deserve it. This section of the site contains a few tips on what to do if you're being bullied.

 

  • Tell someone - a friend, a family member, a teacher, your tutor. Practically anyone you tell can help you. They can help you develop a plan to combat the bullying and give you different way to help you cope, as well as talking to someone to stop the bullying, and put an end to your misery.
  • Confidence is the key to success! Act confident - your head help high, shoulders back and walking straight, don’t forget eye contact too! Tell yourself they're not bothering you, then walk away and go somewhere where you feel safe.
  • Travel around in groups. Bullies are less likely to choose people as victims who have a lot of friends. If there are more of you than them, they are the ones who are more likely to feel victimised.
  • Laugh at yourself! I know it sounds ridiculous, but if you laugh along with the bullies and make a comment about what they're laughing at, they're likely to get sick of it as they think they're not hurting you. For example, is someone calls you short, you can laugh and say "Yeah my dad was short at my age too! But he's not anymore" then walk away. You will be shocked at yourself ;)
  • Stay in safe areas. Stay in areas where there's lots of people, or teachers. Bullies are less likely to strike in these areas because of all the other people around.
  • Keep a "bullying diary". Write down anything that happens involving the bullies. Save any threatening texts, voicemails or notes and use them as proof. When you feel strong enough to tell someone, take them with you and show them. By clicking here you can download the ChildLine bullying diary (its pdf format so you may need to download Adobe before you can open it).
  • Don't fight back if you can help it. If they hit you, try your hardest not to strike back, I’ll only worsen the situation. Bullies often do choose people who are weaker than them.
  • Ask the bully to repeat what they said. Using this tactic can sometimes put them off. They are often not brave enough to repeat the remark, so will back off. If you do something they haven't planned to deal with, it gives you some control.
It takes along time to build a person as they are, then one unintentional but hurtful comment can destroy it all. After bullying, people can suffer from a lack of confidence and have low self-esteem. You need to start rebuilding your confidence and put your past behind you. After all, you're the one who can get off the train and stick your fingers up at the bullies who are on the road to nowhere.
 Good luck! 

Helplines
 
Childline - 0800 11 11 (any issues)
The Samaritans - 08457 90 90 90 or email jo@samaritans.org (any issues)
Careline - 020-85141177 (any issues)
Saneline - 0845-767 8000 (mental health issues)
www.nshn.co.uk (National Self-harm network)
NSPCC child protection helpline - 0808 800 5000
Connexions-direct: http://www.connexions-direct.com Practical advice for 13-19 year olds.
Mind - For better mental health. 0845 766 0163 http://www.mind.org.uk
 
Unfortunately these helplines are for UK residents only.
 
Other websites

http://groups.msn.com/beatbullies-com

http://www.ravendays.org

http://www.scared-of-school.tk a website by two lovely girls who have been bullied.

http://www.angelfire.com/aminga/aut For sufferers of autism and those who have been bullied because of this.
 
http://www.red-tears.com The website of a book by Joanna Kenrick about a 15-year-old who harms herself because of family problems, bullying and exam pressure.
 
http://www.iwinagain.piczo.com  A website by a 12-year-old who has experienced bullying.
 
http://www.justsmile.org.uk A website created by a group of four girls aged 13 - 15

http://www.projectantibully.com Created by a bunch of high school students, this website aims to combat bullying.
 

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